How to Address Your Wedding Envelopes

As a stationer, I can confidently say this: addressing your wedding envelopes is one of those little details that can become a very big headache if you’re not sure what the “rules” are. The truth is, there are several right ways to do it—it all comes down to the tone of your wedding, your personal preferences, and how formal (or casual) you want to be.

So let’s break it down—here’s a guide to addressing your envelopes with confidence and style.

The Basics: Inner vs. Outer Envelopes

Traditionally, formal wedding invitations come with two envelopes:

• Outer Envelope: Includes the full name and address.

• Inner Envelope: Holds the invitation and includes just the names of those invited.

If you’re skipping inner envelopes (which is totally fine and very common these days), just make sure your outer envelope clearly communicates who is invited.

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Formal Addressing

Perfect for black-tie weddings, classic stationery, or when you want to lean into tradition.

Married Couple:

• Mr. and Mrs. John Smith (this is very formal and traditionally how envelopes are addressed)

• Mr. John Smith and Mrs. Emily Smith (this is still formal, but with a more modern approach)

Unmarried Couple Living Together:

• Ms. Emily Johnson and Mr. Mark Davis (typically listed alphabetically by last name)

• Mr. John Smith and Mr. Caleb Marks (couple with different last names)

Family or Group Addressing:

• The Johnson Family (Great for families with kids where you’re inviting everyone and don't want to list out every member)

Single Guest:

• Ms. Olivia Moore (include “and Guest” if they’re bringing a plus-one. If you know name, include on the invitation)

Doctors & Professionals:

• Doctor and Mrs. James Lee

• Dr. Olivia Harper and Mr. James Adams

• The Doctors Harper-Adams (if they are both doctors)

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Casual Addressing

For weddings that are more laid-back or casual.

First Names Only:

• Emily Johnson and Mark Davis

Family or Group Addressing:

• The Johnson Family (Great for families with kids where you’re inviting everyone and don't want to list out every member)

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Tips for Tricky Scenarios

• Divorced Parents: Address them separately. Don’t include a new spouse unless they’re also invited.

• Widows: Traditionally, use Mrs. John Smith but many prefer Mrs. Mary Smith now. Either is correct.

• Plus-Ones: If you know the name, use it! If not, “and Guest” is fine but try to avoid where possible.

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Should I Handwrite or Print My Envelopes?

Both are acceptable, but handwritten (especially by a calligrapher) adds a personal and elegant touch. Digitally printed envelopes can still feel beautiful and are a cost-effective, polished option—especially if your guest list is large.

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Final Thoughts from a Planner

How you address your envelopes sets the tone before guests even open the invitation. My biggest advice? Be consistent with your tone across all your stationery—from the save-the-dates to the RSVP cards—and don’t overthink it. If it feels like you, it’s probably the right choice.

Still unsure how to address a tricky envelope? That’s what your planner’s for.